Do you know you have the right to your space, your body, how you move and interact?
When we had trauma happen to us, our voice and ability to stand up for our selves may be taken away. This is a boundary rupture.
Our mind and body live to protect us. When we are subject to threatening people, places and events we move into "Fight, Flight, Freeze or Fawn."
This is how these survival skills show up in the human mind and body
Flight-Run away, workaholic, over-thinking, anxiety, panic, perfectionism,
Fight- Anger, controlling, bullying, explosive,oppositional
Freeze-difficulty making decisions, stuck, dissociative, isolating, numb
Fawn-codependent, people pleaser, lack of identity, low boundaries
We can work on your sense of self and ability to negotiate space with other people
What are some other possibilities you would like to see for you?
- It is possible to not feel responsible for everyone else
- It is possible to not have all the work fall on you.
- It is possible to not worry about what other people are thinking.
What are some other possibilities you would like to see for you?
"Boundary Repair Reconnects Us With a Necessary Sense of Safety/
To feel fully alive and connected, humans need to feel safe. But not just safe, we need a safe haven to explore the world, take risks, and have the courage to give our gift to the world. For many clients who have felt unsafe, staying stuck in the threat response of fight-flight-freeze solidifies those neural pathways and undermines our natural tendency toward secure attachment and connectedness. Untangling these threat-responses in the body can create more appropriate boundaries, which help clients heal and reclaim their natural state of well-being and allow them to fully embrace the authentic self. Feeling safe and having a safe haven improves confidence to take risks – in relationships, in professional situations, and in exploring the world." Diane Poole Keller https://dianepooleheller.com/taming-trauma-boundary-rupture-and-repair/ 9/11/2023
To feel fully alive and connected, humans need to feel safe. But not just safe, we need a safe haven to explore the world, take risks, and have the courage to give our gift to the world. For many clients who have felt unsafe, staying stuck in the threat response of fight-flight-freeze solidifies those neural pathways and undermines our natural tendency toward secure attachment and connectedness. Untangling these threat-responses in the body can create more appropriate boundaries, which help clients heal and reclaim their natural state of well-being and allow them to fully embrace the authentic self. Feeling safe and having a safe haven improves confidence to take risks – in relationships, in professional situations, and in exploring the world." Diane Poole Keller https://dianepooleheller.com/taming-trauma-boundary-rupture-and-repair/ 9/11/2023
